diff --git a/src/assets/data/profiles placeholder.json b/src/assets/data/profiles placeholder.json index d9fadc0..d8b5af4 100644 --- a/src/assets/data/profiles placeholder.json +++ b/src/assets/data/profiles placeholder.json @@ -1 +1 @@ -[{"order":3,"details":{"name":"Jim","pic":{"detail":"images/profile/profile-j-001_detail.jpg","thumb":"images/profile/profile-j-001_thumbnail.jpg"},"about":"Jim is a psychologist, father and divorcee. He splits custody with his ex-husband over their adopted son and experiences Grindr as what he encapsulated as “desolation for the old.” It’d be no surprise to any Grindr user that the community on the app, and the gay community more generally, glamorizes youth and discards the old. Jim is a frequent victim of random cruelties, or otherwise summarily dismissed based on his age alone. While leading a loving life as a father and as an established professional, since his divorce, loneliness continues to creep into his heart."},"messages":[{"text":"Hi I may be too old or too large for you. If that’s the case please excuse me and have a great day. Say hi otherwise, I’m looking for friends or more. I’m a Great lover friend and top.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 0:45:00"},{"text":"Sorry, just seeing this - hi!","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 15:16:00"},{"text":"Hi. How are you?","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 15:57:00"},{"text":"Good!","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 17:29:00"},{"text":"What’s happening?","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 17:46:00"},{"text":"You do photography as a professional?","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 18:09:00"},{"text":"Yes I do!","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 18:10:15"},{"text":"Cool. Fashion, Commercial?","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 18:11:30"},{"text":"Documentary actually.","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 18:12:45"},{"text":"But I do do commercial stuff too","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 18:14:00"},{"text":"Nice. Cool.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 18:15:15"},{"text":"Why did you need some pictures done?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 18:16:30"},{"text":"Actually not at the moment. You dont have lenses to make me.look.good.naked.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 18:17:45"},{"text":"Don’t say that, but it’s up to you. No worries.","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 18:19:00"},{"text":"Thanks for understanding","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 18:20:15"},{"text":"Grindr is desolation for the old","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:44:00"},{"text":"Yeah?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:45:15"},{"text":"Tell me more what you mean","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:46:30"},{"text":"The culture is so youth oriented. I’m a psychologist - did you know that the highest suicide rate is among gay men over 60? As an old guy you are useless.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:47:45"},{"text":"Gay eople over the age of 40 really don’t go out to bars there are no social outlets. At 60 people are about to just be dead.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:49:00"},{"text":"I see. Wow that’s hard to hear frankly","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:50:15"},{"text":"People put in their profiles that they don’t want to be contacted by over a certain age. That’s fine. But other people just put in that they don’t want to be hit on by creepy old man.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:51:30"},{"text":"That lowers us","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:52:45"},{"text":"Yeah I hear that","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:54:00"},{"text":"And now when I want to try and meet people I have to try and present myself as apologetic in order to minimize the number of people who freak out and call me names.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:55:15"},{"text":"And then there is the actual social aspect of the culture on Grindr. You could spend all night on here and not have one person say hello back or one real conversation or make one friend.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:56:30"},{"text":"Some of my friends died. Others moved away. This place is like a hell you can’t avoid.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:57:45"},{"text":"Grindr is like hell, a place you can’t avoid? Is that what you mean?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:59:00"},{"text":"Yes","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:00:15"},{"text":"I have to say I’m a bit at a loss for words","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:01:30"},{"text":"Or you can come online and maybe have a superficial hello or get abused or sometimes get nothing at all. It’s like playing Russian Roulette. It’s addictive and you always keep hoping that you’re going to meet somebody.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:02:45"},{"text":"Get abused? What do you mean by that?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:04:00"},{"text":"Pretty demoralizing when people call you faggot or old or ugly or creep. I have even been told I ought to just go off and die.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:05:15"},{"text":"Wow that’s awful","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:06:30"},{"text":"Don’t be too surprised this is happening across our whole culture with texting replacing telephone calls less and less human contact being made available to people.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:07:45"},{"text":"Would you be interested in talking more in person? I think this is a really important aspect of Grindr culture people don’t think a lot about","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:09:00"},{"text":"Sure. You see bits of it around the edges for people of color or minorities also. You see it on their profiles where they will say be kind or If you’re racist don’t bother talking to me. Because a lot of Asian people have told me that they get treated horribly by people on here also.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:10:15"},{"text":"Yeah I do notice that for sure.","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:11:30"},{"text":"Ok I’m off to bed but you can favorite in a.m. to be able to get a hold of me.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:12:45"},{"text":"Good night","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:14:00"},{"text":"Sounds good. Good night.","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:15:15"},{"text":"Oh, btw what’s your name, I’m Nick.","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:16:30"},{"text":"Dr. Jim Vermilya.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:17:45"},{"text":"Nice to meet you. Let’s talk soon.","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:00:00"},{"text":"How’s your day?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 14:16:00"},{"text":"Good. Yours?","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 14:55:00"},{"text":"Very productive. Catching up on a lot of work.","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 14:56:15"},{"text":"Cool. That’s good. I’d like to talk to you more about your project at some point.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 14:57:30"},{"text":"Cool - yeah maybe we can find a time after the holidays?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 14:58:45"},{"text":"Sure","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 15:00:00"},{"text":"Hey Jim, how have you been?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:11"},{"text":"Good, you?","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:12"},{"text":"Good. Last time we talked you brought up being older and using Grindr… tell me about how it was coming out for you?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:13"},{"text":"Well I came out for the first time while I was at the Univ of Miami, it was 1977. I was a sophomore. I was feeling relatively comfortable and thought that my friends would be cool with it but that was not the case. It was myself and 3 other guys in an apartment. One guy was a football player from Texas, the other was a foreign student from Turkey. They flipped out when I told them. Totally changed their behavior. He use to walk around the apartment and just casually not wear his shirt and as soon as he found out I was gay he never did that again. Just made our relationship really uncomfortable.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:14"},{"text":"Wow that sounds shitty.","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:16"},{"text":"Yeah, so then I kind of went back into the closet until I came out more permanently when I was 27. I was living up in New England, finishing an internship. Coming out that time didn’t work out to well either but i had more strength in myself by then.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:17"},{"text":"I see. So what was dating like as a gay guy at that time?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:18"},{"text":"Well actually, you could rent a service where they’d mail you an envelop that had all the responses to an ad you had taken out in the newspaper looking for a partner.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:19"},{"text":"It was just really weird to write back and forth with these strangers… to try and figure out if it was safe, to figure out who the person was, if they were baiting you. But that was one of the only ways to meet other gay guys. It wasn’t like what it’s like today.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:21"},{"text":"Wow I can’t imagine that. Do any of the pen pals so to speak stand out?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:22"},{"text":"One that sticks out in my memory was one that kind of weirded me out. Eventually, after writing back and forth, we got on the phone and he said to come meet him at his place. The guy had just started graduate school and I drove out in the middle of nowhere to his place. Only thing is nobody was there. But it was a considerable drive and it was very clear that he had wanted me to go there so i was like hello hello. Weirder still it was clear someone had just been there. I was looking around the place for someone, and I saw a gun in his bedroom. So i thought i gotta get out of there, this is not right. So i got out as quick as i could cause i didn’t know where the person was if they were hiding or anything. And as i left there was a bald eagle on a tree stump and this eagle just sat there and looked at me. He took off and I took off too.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:23"},{"text":"Wow. Did you ever hear from him again?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:24"},{"text":"No. I wouldn’t put myself in that position again though.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:26"},{"text":"Besides those newspapers as, there were bars where you could meet people too. But that was difficult for me.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:27"},{"text":"Why","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:28"},{"text":"Because i didnt have a very positive perception of myself as a gay person and i was terrified of what other gay people would be like","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:29"},{"text":"What did you think they would be like","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:31"},{"text":"Put it this way, i remember going to sit outside a bar in Albany which is where i went to graduate school and i sat there and just watched the people just to see what kind of people went there.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:32"},{"text":"What’d you learn","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:33"},{"text":"People look pretty normal guys of different ages, women, men. Looked like an ok crowd. So eventually i went in.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:34"},{"text":"How’d that feel","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:36"},{"text":"Anxiety provoking. I didn’t know how to act. Eventually i met somebody.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:37"},{"text":"And the early days of the internet?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:38"},{"text":"Well, I know i met my ex husband through an ad but it wasn’t online. So I think things changed while we were married, so i didn’t get to experience that. When we got divorced, i started to get exposed to this now present online culture. That was back around 2010 or so. I’d have to check exactly when.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:39"},{"text":"I see. And what do you think of it all?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:41"},{"text":"It’s so toxic. I’m at the the point where if i see a message from someone on here, I'll look at the first few words and if I get the sense its negative, I try not to read the rest of it, because I’m a very visual person and it gets stuck in my head, so i try not to expose myself to it.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:42"},{"text":"It’s this bizarre effort that you put forth to try and contact people to see if they might be interested in you, in an almost apologetic manner. If they say, hi im not interested, that’s nice, its maybe even a plus, because you’ve had some human contact. And occasionally, people will be conversant, and that’s even better. The best is when you’ll find someone who doesn’t mind if you’re older, and that’s super. So it’s very rare that a hook up will come off from grindr. And even if you say yo are looking for friends, that’s tough too. I’d really like to make some friends on there or somewhere else, i just cant remember how to make friends anymore. I’d like some gay friends.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:43"},{"text":"It’s this bizarre effort that you put forth to try and contact people to see if they might be interested in you, in an almost apologetic manner. If they say, hi im not interested, that’s nice, its maybe even a plus, because you’ve had some human contact. And occasionally, people will be conversant, and that’s even better. The best is when you’ll find someone who doesn’t mind if you’re older, and that’s super. So it’s very rare that a hook up will come off from grindr. And even if you say yo are looking for friends, that’s tough too. I’d really like to make some friends on there or somewhere else, i just cant remember how to make friends anymore. I’d like some gay friends.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:44"},{"text":"Why","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:46"},{"text":"Just to have people you have something in common with. To talk about the things we all struggle with. I mean anything. Just being able to share, you know, relationship issues without someone putting their own spin onto it. Just being friends. But being friends with someone who is like you is different then someone who is straight married with kids.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:47"},{"text":"Do you feel lonely?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:48"},{"text":"Yes","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:49"},{"text":"What does loneliness feel like","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:51"},{"text":"Just wishing you had someone you could call up and do something with. It’s not that I don’t enjoy time by myself its just when you have too much of that time, or when you have no other options. I'll make plans to try and do things and if that falls through, I just don’t have that big of a network that I can put something else together.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:52"},{"text":"A lot of evenings or weekends if I don’t have my son I’ll spend it alone. Or I’ll do something by myself, go to the gym, go to the movies, but it’s always alone. So I guess loneliness is being alone too much when you don’t want to be.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:53"},{"text":"Would you rather Grindr didn’t exist","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:54"},{"text":"I have an ambivalent relationship to it. Sometimes I get to the point where I’m not talking to anyone in a positive way, so i delete the app like a lot of people do and i reinstall it","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:56"},{"text":"What goes through your mind when you reinstall it","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:57"},{"text":"That there really isn’t an alternative. And some contact regardless of its quality is better than no contact. And for me there really isn’t any other venue where im going to talk to a gay person. I mean there are other apps but they’re all the same.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:58"},{"text":"What do you think people misunderstand most about the age dynamic","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:59"},{"text":"Honestly im not sure how to answer that question. Cause i don’t ... i don’t get the age dynamic to some extent.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 15:01"},{"text":"Don’t you think its important for people","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 15:02"},{"text":"It might be, but its not the first thing that .... hmmm.... its not the most important thing. In my practice i see gay people straight people of all different ages, and after awhile age disappears and i kind of know, sure, there are people in there twenties, in their thirties and forties and people that are over fifty... but i don’t ask people how old they are. It’s not important to me.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 15:03"},{"text":"Has that always been the case?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 15:04"},{"text":"Yeah I grew up in a very rural area around people who were much older than i was, so they were my friends, and then there were my parents, and sometimes their friends would talk to me too, because i was always identified as a more mature person. But i think, where the age dynamic really comes into play is when you try to get into a relationship or friendship with someone, not to over generalize but college kids will want to go drink and go out to clubs... and i don’t like to drink very much anymore, and i don go to clubs cause thats an alien environment to someone who is older... and knowing that that is what they and their friends are going to be into, thats where the age dynamic comes into play. And also if you get into someone who is younger, both of you start playing the numbers game in your head... when im 50 your gonna be 79 and what’s that gonna be like... or i decide im gonna retire and your in the prime of your career... or who’s career takes precedence... but couples deal with these things all the time, but those are the types of things when you talk about age dynamics in relationships.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 15:06"},{"text":"What about the whole sugar daddy thing?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 15:07"},{"text":"It’s revolting. If I see that in someone’s profile i delete them right away. I mean some people may not mind that but i do. And theres a fair number of people who message me and say gen? (Generous)... or in other words, im so old im so gross, that if I pay them then they’ll have sex with me...","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 15:08"},{"text":"How does that make you feel","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 15:09"},{"text":"Like shit. Depressed, Sad, lonely, hopeless, angry, frustrated. Delete. Block.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 15:11"},{"text":"When I look at profiles on Grindr, first thing I do is I read the profile. I read the whole damn thing and if it says i don’t want to hear from someone who is x years old, you just don’t message that person.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 15:12"},{"text":"so you mentioned on the phone your decision to delete the grindr app?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/9/2017 21:42:00"},{"text":"did something specific precipitate it","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/9/2017 21:43:00"},{"text":"I’m speaking with a guy. Going to China with him actually. He said he deleted his. I opted to do the same.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/9/2017 22:08:00"},{"image":"images/message/jv-chat-image-001.jpg","isUser":"true","timestamp":"12/9/2017 22:08:00"},{"text":"Oh yeah? Is it a romantic thing?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/9/2017 22:21:00"},{"text":"I hope so.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/9/2017 22:22:00"}]},{"order":4,"details":{"name":"Anthony","pic":{"detail":"images/profile/profile-a-002_detail.jpg","thumb":"images/profile/profile-a-001_thumbnail.jpg"}}},{"order":5,"details":{"name":"Brian","pic":{"detail":"images/profile/profile-b-001_detail.jpg","thumb":"images/profile/profile-b-001_thumbnail.jpg"}}},{"order":6,"details":{"name":"Dennis","pic":{"detail":"images/profile/profile-d-001_detail.jpg","thumb":"images/profile/profile-d-001_thumbnail.jpg"}}},{"order":7,"details":{"name":"Jonas and Andi","pic":{"detail":"images/profile/profile-ja-001_detail.jpg","thumb":"images/profile/profile-ja-001_thumbnail.jpg"}}},{"order":8,"details":{"name":"Matia","pic":{"detail":"images/profile/profile-m-002_detail.jpg","thumb":"images/profile/profile-m-002_thumbnail.jpg"}}},{"order":9,"details":{"name":"Nick","pic":{"detail":"images/profile/profile-n-001_detail.jpg","thumb":"images/profile/profile-n-001_thumbnail.jpg"}}},{"order":10,"details":{"name":"Mike","pic":{"detail":"images/profile/profile-m-003_detail.jpg","thumb":"images/profile/profile-m-003_thumbnail.jpg"}}},{"order":11,"details":{"name":"Shawn","pic":{"detail":"images/profile/profile-sp-001_detail.jpg","thumb":"images/profile/profile-sp-001_thumbnail.jpg"}}},{"order":12,"details":{"name":"Simon","pic":{"detail":"images/profile/profile-s-002_detail.jpg","thumb":"images/profile/profile-s-002_thumbnail.jpg"}}},{"order":13,"details":{"name":"tj","pic":{"detail":"images/profile/profile-t-001_detail.jpg","thumb":"images/profile/profile-t-001_thumbnail.jpg"}}}] \ No newline at end of file +[{"order":3,"details":{"name":"Jim","pic":{"detail":"images/profile/profile-j-002_detail.jpg","thumb":"images/profile/profile-j-002_thumbnail.jpg"},"about":"Jim is a psychologist, father and divorcee. He splits custody with his ex-husband over their adopted son and experiences Grindr as what he encapsulated as “desolation for the old.” It’d be no surprise to any Grindr user that the community on the app, and the gay community more generally, glamorizes youth and discards the old. Jim is a frequent victim of random cruelties, or otherwise summarily dismissed based on his age alone. While leading a loving life as a father and as an established professional, since his divorce, loneliness continues to creep into his heart."},"messages":[{"text":"Hi I may be too old or too large for you. If that’s the case please excuse me and have a great day. Say hi otherwise, I’m looking for friends or more. I’m a Great lover friend and top.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 0:45:00"},{"text":"Sorry, just seeing this - hi!","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 15:16:00"},{"text":"Hi. How are you?","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 15:57:00"},{"text":"Good!","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 17:29:00"},{"text":"What’s happening?","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 17:46:00"},{"text":"You do photography as a professional?","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 18:09:00"},{"text":"Yes I do!","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 18:10:15"},{"text":"Cool. Fashion, Commercial?","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 18:11:30"},{"text":"Documentary actually.","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 18:12:45"},{"text":"But I do do commercial stuff too","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 18:14:00"},{"text":"Nice. Cool.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 18:15:15"},{"text":"Why did you need some pictures done?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 18:16:30"},{"text":"Actually not at the moment. You dont have lenses to make me.look.good.naked.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 18:17:45"},{"text":"Don’t say that, but it’s up to you. No worries.","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 18:19:00"},{"text":"Thanks for understanding","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/20/2017 18:20:15"},{"text":"Grindr is desolation for the old","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:44:00"},{"text":"Yeah?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:45:15"},{"text":"Tell me more what you mean","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:46:30"},{"text":"The culture is so youth oriented. I’m a psychologist - did you know that the highest suicide rate is among gay men over 60? As an old guy you are useless.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:47:45"},{"text":"Gay eople over the age of 40 really don’t go out to bars there are no social outlets. At 60 people are about to just be dead.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:49:00"},{"text":"I see. Wow that’s hard to hear frankly","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:50:15"},{"text":"People put in their profiles that they don’t want to be contacted by over a certain age. That’s fine. But other people just put in that they don’t want to be hit on by creepy old man.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:51:30"},{"text":"That lowers us","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:52:45"},{"text":"Yeah I hear that","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:54:00"},{"text":"And now when I want to try and meet people I have to try and present myself as apologetic in order to minimize the number of people who freak out and call me names.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:55:15"},{"text":"And then there is the actual social aspect of the culture on Grindr. You could spend all night on here and not have one person say hello back or one real conversation or make one friend.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:56:30"},{"text":"Some of my friends died. Others moved away. This place is like a hell you can’t avoid.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:57:45"},{"text":"Grindr is like hell, a place you can’t avoid? Is that what you mean?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 00:59:00"},{"text":"Yes","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:00:15"},{"text":"I have to say I’m a bit at a loss for words","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:01:30"},{"text":"Or you can come online and maybe have a superficial hello or get abused or sometimes get nothing at all. It’s like playing Russian Roulette. It’s addictive and you always keep hoping that you’re going to meet somebody.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:02:45"},{"text":"Get abused? What do you mean by that?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:04:00"},{"text":"Pretty demoralizing when people call you faggot or old or ugly or creep. I have even been told I ought to just go off and die.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:05:15"},{"text":"Wow that’s awful","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:06:30"},{"text":"Don’t be too surprised this is happening across our whole culture with texting replacing telephone calls less and less human contact being made available to people.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:07:45"},{"text":"Would you be interested in talking more in person? I think this is a really important aspect of Grindr culture people don’t think a lot about","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:09:00"},{"text":"Sure. You see bits of it around the edges for people of color or minorities also. You see it on their profiles where they will say be kind or If you’re racist don’t bother talking to me. Because a lot of Asian people have told me that they get treated horribly by people on here also.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:10:15"},{"text":"Yeah I do notice that for sure.","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:11:30"},{"text":"Ok I’m off to bed but you can favorite in a.m. to be able to get a hold of me.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:12:45"},{"text":"Good night","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:14:00"},{"text":"Sounds good. Good night.","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:15:15"},{"text":"Oh, btw what’s your name, I’m Nick.","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:16:30"},{"text":"Dr. Jim Vermilya.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:17:45"},{"text":"Nice to meet you. Let’s talk soon.","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 01:00:00"},{"text":"How’s your day?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 14:16:00"},{"text":"Good. Yours?","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 14:55:00"},{"text":"Very productive. Catching up on a lot of work.","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 14:56:15"},{"text":"Cool. That’s good. I’d like to talk to you more about your project at some point.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 14:57:30"},{"text":"Cool - yeah maybe we can find a time after the holidays?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 14:58:45"},{"text":"Sure","isUser":true,"timestamp":"11/21/2017 15:00:00"},{"text":"Hey Jim, how have you been?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:11"},{"text":"Good, you?","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:12"},{"text":"Good. Last time we talked you brought up being older and using Grindr… tell me about how it was coming out for you?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:13"},{"text":"Well I came out for the first time while I was at the Univ of Miami, it was 1977. I was a sophomore. I was feeling relatively comfortable and thought that my friends would be cool with it but that was not the case. It was myself and 3 other guys in an apartment. One guy was a football player from Texas, the other was a foreign student from Turkey. They flipped out when I told them. Totally changed their behavior. He use to walk around the apartment and just casually not wear his shirt and as soon as he found out I was gay he never did that again. Just made our relationship really uncomfortable.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:14"},{"text":"Wow that sounds shitty.","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:16"},{"text":"Yeah, so then I kind of went back into the closet until I came out more permanently when I was 27. I was living up in New England, finishing an internship. Coming out that time didn’t work out to well either but i had more strength in myself by then.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:17"},{"text":"I see. So what was dating like as a gay guy at that time?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:18"},{"text":"Well actually, you could rent a service where they’d mail you an envelop that had all the responses to an ad you had taken out in the newspaper looking for a partner.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:19"},{"text":"It was just really weird to write back and forth with these strangers… to try and figure out if it was safe, to figure out who the person was, if they were baiting you. But that was one of the only ways to meet other gay guys. It wasn’t like what it’s like today.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:21"},{"text":"Wow I can’t imagine that. Do any of the pen pals so to speak stand out?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:22"},{"text":"One that sticks out in my memory was one that kind of weirded me out. Eventually, after writing back and forth, we got on the phone and he said to come meet him at his place. The guy had just started graduate school and I drove out in the middle of nowhere to his place. Only thing is nobody was there. But it was a considerable drive and it was very clear that he had wanted me to go there so i was like hello hello. Weirder still it was clear someone had just been there. I was looking around the place for someone, and I saw a gun in his bedroom. So i thought i gotta get out of there, this is not right. So i got out as quick as i could cause i didn’t know where the person was if they were hiding or anything. And as i left there was a bald eagle on a tree stump and this eagle just sat there and looked at me. He took off and I took off too.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:23"},{"text":"Wow. Did you ever hear from him again?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:24"},{"text":"No. I wouldn’t put myself in that position again though.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:26"},{"text":"Besides those newspapers as, there were bars where you could meet people too. But that was difficult for me.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:27"},{"text":"Why","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:28"},{"text":"Because i didnt have a very positive perception of myself as a gay person and i was terrified of what other gay people would be like","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:29"},{"text":"What did you think they would be like","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:31"},{"text":"Put it this way, i remember going to sit outside a bar in Albany which is where i went to graduate school and i sat there and just watched the people just to see what kind of people went there.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:32"},{"text":"What’d you learn","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:33"},{"text":"People look pretty normal guys of different ages, women, men. Looked like an ok crowd. So eventually i went in.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:34"},{"text":"How’d that feel","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:36"},{"text":"Anxiety provoking. I didn’t know how to act. Eventually i met somebody.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:37"},{"text":"And the early days of the internet?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:38"},{"text":"Well, I know i met my ex husband through an ad but it wasn’t online. So I think things changed while we were married, so i didn’t get to experience that. When we got divorced, i started to get exposed to this now present online culture. That was back around 2010 or so. I’d have to check exactly when.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:39"},{"text":"I see. And what do you think of it all?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:41"},{"text":"It’s so toxic. I’m at the the point where if i see a message from someone on here, I'll look at the first few words and if I get the sense its negative, I try not to read the rest of it, because I’m a very visual person and it gets stuck in my head, so i try not to expose myself to it.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:42"},{"text":"It’s this bizarre effort that you put forth to try and contact people to see if they might be interested in you, in an almost apologetic manner. If they say, hi im not interested, that’s nice, its maybe even a plus, because you’ve had some human contact. And occasionally, people will be conversant, and that’s even better. The best is when you’ll find someone who doesn’t mind if you’re older, and that’s super. So it’s very rare that a hook up will come off from grindr. And even if you say yo are looking for friends, that’s tough too. I’d really like to make some friends on there or somewhere else, i just cant remember how to make friends anymore. I’d like some gay friends.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:43"},{"text":"It’s this bizarre effort that you put forth to try and contact people to see if they might be interested in you, in an almost apologetic manner. If they say, hi im not interested, that’s nice, its maybe even a plus, because you’ve had some human contact. And occasionally, people will be conversant, and that’s even better. The best is when you’ll find someone who doesn’t mind if you’re older, and that’s super. So it’s very rare that a hook up will come off from grindr. And even if you say yo are looking for friends, that’s tough too. I’d really like to make some friends on there or somewhere else, i just cant remember how to make friends anymore. I’d like some gay friends.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:44"},{"text":"Why","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:46"},{"text":"Just to have people you have something in common with. To talk about the things we all struggle with. I mean anything. Just being able to share, you know, relationship issues without someone putting their own spin onto it. Just being friends. But being friends with someone who is like you is different then someone who is straight married with kids.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:47"},{"text":"Do you feel lonely?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:48"},{"text":"Yes","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:49"},{"text":"What does loneliness feel like","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:51"},{"text":"Just wishing you had someone you could call up and do something with. It’s not that I don’t enjoy time by myself its just when you have too much of that time, or when you have no other options. I'll make plans to try and do things and if that falls through, I just don’t have that big of a network that I can put something else together.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:52"},{"text":"A lot of evenings or weekends if I don’t have my son I’ll spend it alone. Or I’ll do something by myself, go to the gym, go to the movies, but it’s always alone. So I guess loneliness is being alone too much when you don’t want to be.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:53"},{"text":"Would you rather Grindr didn’t exist","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:54"},{"text":"I have an ambivalent relationship to it. Sometimes I get to the point where I’m not talking to anyone in a positive way, so i delete the app like a lot of people do and i reinstall it","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:56"},{"text":"What goes through your mind when you reinstall it","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:57"},{"text":"That there really isn’t an alternative. And some contact regardless of its quality is better than no contact. And for me there really isn’t any other venue where im going to talk to a gay person. I mean there are other apps but they’re all the same.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:58"},{"text":"What do you think people misunderstand most about the age dynamic","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 14:59"},{"text":"Honestly im not sure how to answer that question. Cause i don’t ... i don’t get the age dynamic to some extent.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 15:01"},{"text":"Don’t you think its important for people","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 15:02"},{"text":"It might be, but its not the first thing that .... hmmm.... its not the most important thing. In my practice i see gay people straight people of all different ages, and after awhile age disappears and i kind of know, sure, there are people in there twenties, in their thirties and forties and people that are over fifty... but i don’t ask people how old they are. It’s not important to me.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 15:03"},{"text":"Has that always been the case?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 15:04"},{"text":"Yeah I grew up in a very rural area around people who were much older than i was, so they were my friends, and then there were my parents, and sometimes their friends would talk to me too, because i was always identified as a more mature person. But i think, where the age dynamic really comes into play is when you try to get into a relationship or friendship with someone, not to over generalize but college kids will want to go drink and go out to clubs... and i don’t like to drink very much anymore, and i don go to clubs cause thats an alien environment to someone who is older... and knowing that that is what they and their friends are going to be into, thats where the age dynamic comes into play. And also if you get into someone who is younger, both of you start playing the numbers game in your head... when im 50 your gonna be 79 and what’s that gonna be like... or i decide im gonna retire and your in the prime of your career... or who’s career takes precedence... but couples deal with these things all the time, but those are the types of things when you talk about age dynamics in relationships.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 15:06"},{"text":"What about the whole sugar daddy thing?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 15:07"},{"text":"It’s revolting. If I see that in someone’s profile i delete them right away. I mean some people may not mind that but i do. And theres a fair number of people who message me and say gen? (Generous)... or in other words, im so old im so gross, that if I pay them then they’ll have sex with me...","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 15:08"},{"text":"How does that make you feel","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 15:09"},{"text":"Like shit. Depressed, Sad, lonely, hopeless, angry, frustrated. Delete. Block.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 15:11"},{"text":"When I look at profiles on Grindr, first thing I do is I read the profile. I read the whole damn thing and if it says i don’t want to hear from someone who is x years old, you just don’t message that person.","isUser":true,"timestamp":"12/8/2017 15:12"},{"text":"so you mentioned on the phone your decision to delete the grindr app?","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/9/2017 21:42:00"},{"text":"did something specific precipitate it","isUser":false,"timestamp":"12/9/2017 21:43:00"},{"text":"I’m speaking with a guy. Going to China with him actually. He said he deleted his. 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